Have you ever decided to start eating healthy only to give up after a day? Signed up for a gym but just paid the whole year without going? Had a homework assignment made on the last second, vowed to never do that again, which of-course you have? Those are just a few of the crazy things that I have done before learning of the enemy that was sabotaging my life.
You probably don’t realize it, but there’s an enemy within you, this enemy is strong, this enemy is invisible, he’s sneaky, he’s persuasive, he can sound like your best friend, he’ll tell you what you want to hear, but most important of all this enemy is a liar!
He’s the one to tell you, it’s ok to rest now, you can do that tomorrow, it’s only one donut, you can work on that later, next week, next month, you’re too busy, you’re too young, you’re too old, you’re too stupid and the list goes on and on…
What’s the name of this enemy? Steven Pressfield in his book “War of Art” called it Resistance. I think it’s a perfect name. First of all if you don’t push against Resistance you remain stuck. Second, if you feel Resistance it means you’re going uphill and not downhill.
How to conquer Resistance?
If you came here for a quick hack or a solution I’m sorry to disappoint you. Conquering Resistance is a constant battle, it’s a campaign. Just when you think you’ve made it and won, it can sneak back on you and make you fall even stronger.
Your Excuses Are LIES
Taking from my own experience on what’s working for me is first of all recognizing that all the excuses that you say to yourself are L-I-E-S. I’m too tired to workout – LIE. I can’t program at this hour, my brain is dead – LIE. I have little kids, I can’t do that at this moment in life – LIE. All your excuses can sound reasonable and valid but they’re all LIES. Once you catch yourself lying to yourself it gets easier to push through the excuses and go after your goals anyway.
Use the power of goals
Goals, you’re probably sick and tired of hearing about goals. Every productivity article somewhere writes about the importance of goal-setting. Let me just tell you this from my own experience, goals can help you fight Resistance. If your goals have an emotional impact on you, if you create enough desire to achieve them, it can help you push through Resistance. It can motivate you (give you a motive, a reason) to push through all the lies and difficulties and do the right thing.
Start small and continue the momentum. If you ever pushed a heavy supermarket cart, you know that at first it’s really hard to push, but after you manage to get it moving it’s pretty easy keeping it going in the same direction. For example, you wish to get in shape but Resistance tells you that you don’t have time to workout. Start with a 2 minutes slow run, it’s harder to lie to yourself that you don’t have 2 minutes to run! Or even set a goal to put on your sport shoes. You’ll see that setting a small goal like that can help you create the momentum you need to start running, first it’ll be 2 minutes, then 5, then before you know it you’re running 4 times a week and increasing the pace/time you run.
Turn Shoulds into Musts
Turn your shoulds into musts. I heard Tony Robbins talk about it in a video clip on Youtube. My Ninjitsu teacher says “training is not an option”. When you treat something as a must and not a should it’ll always get DONE. You don’t say to yourself, I should pay the rent, you say to yourself I MUST pay the rent, that’s why the rent is paid. If you say to yourself I MUST workout instead of I SHOULD workout, then you WILL workout. This is true for everything and not just working out.
The good news about Resistance
There is something good about Resistance, it can point you in the right direction to where you want to be. You feel the strongest Resistance towards things that are really important to you. Use it as a compass to find the things that you really need to be doing. You can use Judu like technique and just DO exactly what Resistance tells you not to do, use its’ own force against it to create a better life for yourself.
Keep fighting, keep grinding, keep going in the right direction. If you fall off the horse, go back up, life is short, there’s no time. You can get everything your dream of. GET OFF THE COUCH!